"I Don't Know What to Do With My Hands!" – Candid Photo Tips for Camera-Shy Couples

If you’ve ever stood in front of a camera and felt like your hands suddenly grew to twice their normal size, you aren’t alone. For many of the couples I work with, the biggest fear isn't the lighting or the location—it’s the 'scriptless stage' feeling. You want those effortless, candid wedding photography tips to come naturally, but then reality hits: you freeze, and your hands just... dangle

The secret isn't learning how to pose; it's learning how to move so you can stop worrying about your hands and start focusing on each other.

The truth is, hands are the ultimate giveaway of how we feel. When we’re nervous, they fidget or clench. But on your wedding day, your hands are actually your greatest tool for showing connection. They hold rings, they wipe away tears, and they pull your partner closer — moments that define the candid wedding photography you'll find in my portfolio at its best

If you’re worried about feeling awkward, here is my “cheat sheet” for making your hands look natural (and even elegant) in every shot.

1. Focus on Each Other, Not the Lens

The secret to a great candid photo is connection. Instead of scanning the room for where the photographer is standing, lock eyes with your partner. Steal a glance, share a whisper, or simply squeeze their hand. When you are immersed in each other, that genuine "spark" shines through—and those are the moments you’ll want to frame.

2. Give Your Hands a "Job"

The "What do I do with my hands?" dilemma is real. The easiest fix? Give them a purpose.

• The Accessory Move: Lightly hold your bouquet, adjust your cufflink, or touch your partner’s lapel.

• The Pocket Play: Grooms, putting one hand partially in your pocket (with the thumb out) looks instantly relaxed and editorial.

• The Connection: Just reach for your partner. Whether it’s a hand on their waist or a gentle brush of hair behind their ear, purposeful movement looks better than hands dangling by your side.

3. Motion Over Posing

Stiffness is the enemy of a great photo. If you feel yourself freezing up, move.  Walk hand-in-hand toward the camera, sway to the music, or spin in your dress. Movement creates a natural flow in

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your body and gives your photographer a wealth of opportunities to capture life in motion rather than a static, forced pose.

4. Trust the "In-Between" Moments

Candid wedding photography thrives on spontaneity. It’s your best friend laughing during the ceremony, a quiet moment in the back of the car, or the way you two look at each other when you think no one is watching. Don’t rush through your day; allow yourself to savor the small moments. When you are relaxed, the spontaneous magic happens on its own.

5. Build Rapport with Your Photographer

You’ll be spending more time with your photographer than almost anyone else on your wedding day. If you don't feel comfortable with them, it will show in the photos. Find someone whose personality puts you at ease.

PRO TIP: This is why I always recommend an engagement session. It’s the perfect "practice run" to get used to my documentary approach and lose the camera jitters before the big day arrives.

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The Bottom Line: Just Be You

The key to looking natural is simple: be yourself. When you trust your photographer and lean into the love surrounding you, the photos will take care of themselves.

Ready to capture your Toronto wedding in a way that feels like you?

I specialize in a documentary-style approach that prioritizes real moments over stiff poses. If you’re looking for someone to capture the laughter, the tears, and everything in between, I’d love to hear from you.

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